What would you guess 80% of the American population does as the very FIRST thing when they wake up in the morning? If you guessed that they check or get on their phone, you’re right! Whenever I visit my parents, I’m always super aware of how often I’m on my phone because my parent’s generation is more tuned into people, not technology. Most of our parents’ and grandparents’ generation didn’t grow up with cell phones, so they are far less attached to them than we are. When I watch my parents interact with my boys, I never see them say “hold on, I have to check that Facebook message or text.” It’s always my honest gut check to realize how distracted I can be because of this small device that is always by my side. I never want my boys to look back and think I didn’t truly see them because I was too busy trying to read something on my phone instead of giving them my full undivided attention. And you know what else? No one ever envies the girl who is always on her phone. Am I right?
Unfortunately we live in a world full of distractions. We have so many things available to us right at our fingers tips, that I think we often forget to see what is right in front of us. When we wakeup and immediately check our phones, we are allowing it to control us instead of us controlling the way our day is going to start. No one wants to start their day off reading a bad email or something negative on a Facebook post. Take the control back into your own hands!
Start the day off with choosing something else to do with your hands. When I get up in the morning, the first thing I do is turn on my coffee pot. I used to rationalize checking my phone and scrolling through my Facebook feed while my coffee is brewing. I mean seriously…How much could I really miss in the time I was sleeping?! Is anything SO important that it really needs my attention at 5 am? I have to purposefully tell myself to not pick up the phone while I’m waiting on coffee. Now I take the time to write my son a note for his lunchbox or make a to do list for the tasks I need to focus on for the day.
My family deserves my first and my best and sadly sometimes they just don’t get it. Instead o reaching for your phone first thing in the morning, reach over and squeeze your husband’s hand instead. Reach up and open your Bible. Use your hands to make breakfast for your family. Take that time to do a quick workout instead of scrolling through your news feed. Put your phone on airplane mode before you go to sleep and be intentional at not turning it on until you have set aside the time to do so. Children especially are only little for so long and you only have a short period of time where they want to be around you. Don’t take that time for granted. Soak up every moment with your family! There will always be time to check your messages, but your children won’t always be there under your roof.
Make a point to be Soul Connected instead of Digitally Connected. And if you haven’t checked out her books, please read Hands Free Life and Hands Free Mama by Rachel Macy Stafford. These books were life changing for me and truly freed me from the bondage our phones have over us!
*I’d love for you to checkout my Youtube video where I discussed this topic too!
Finally, at She Works His Way, we are a community of like-minded business women who are extremely passionate about keeping God first, family second, and our callings third. With summer quickly approaching, we know that social media for your business or ministry is the last thing you want to have stealing precious time away from those you love most! Want to avoid getting sucked into your phone and computer? We’ve got the perfect social media checklist to help you optimize your time and live better offline!
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